In Living a Life That Matters, Harold S. Kushner writes about two longings for which our souls yearn:
1. to be good
2. to matter / be important / make a difference
He talks about our need to know that we are valued and important. That the world takes us seriously. That we are deeply loved.
It made me think about what makes me feel like I'm good, or that I matter, or am important, or that I'm making a difference.
Derek and I are so old-fashioned and stubborn that we don't use a cell phone. We had one during the baby years, but we haven't used one for a few years now. We're thinking of getting a plan, but here's one of my biggest fears about cell phones: that they will make me think I'm important based on the number of calls/texts/vibrations I get. And while connections are a great way to feel important and loved, I don't want to become addicted to a little machine that will tell me that. But we shall see. Sometimes it seems irresponsible to NOT have a cell phone.
But I digress. I think that I feel most important, and that I matter, because of the relationships I cultivate. Because of the love that is shared. And I hope that I'm doing that every day - feeling and giving love freely to others around me.
"If a person has known love, has felt and given love,
that person's life has made a difference."
- Harold Kushner