These are longtime friendships that I deeply cherish, but I'm not so great at keeping in touch. As we've grown up, some years have gone by with little to no contact. We're scattered all over the place - not living in the same town. Facebook has certainly improved things in that department, but I sometimes get a bit annoyed with myself for not keeping in better touch with friends that I love dearly.
If people don't live in my neighbourhood, or go to my church, or have kids that go to my kids' school, or share something else on a weekly basis, a long time can go by before we see each other. Life just goes on. But luckily, these are friendships where no apology is necessary - we can just pick up where we left off, and marvel at the ways we can still connect after all these years. Laughing. Deep conversations. Belly-flop and diving contests. Singing 80s tunes around the campfire. And more laughing.
But it makes me think about intentionality. When I'm intentional about it - actually contact someone and set a date, it's wonderful and we ask each other why we don't do more of it. What I put in is directly related to what I get out of a friendship - if I make an effort to connect, I'm infinitely blessed by our time together. So why don't I do it more often?
|a portrait of us, from the knees on down|
"The best mirror is an old friend." - George Herbert
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive,
and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." - Anais Nin
How are you intentional about maintaining friendships? What do you do to keep in touch?